The basic thing about life is that, it is determined by the relationships we have, this means that the key of making your life interesting or dull is by creating certain relationships. If u want to do it right, then u have to know which ones to make, which ones to avoid and how to maintain the ones that are most important to you.
The relationships we create should be the ones that build a certain aspect of our lives. One thing i have come to notice is that, usually the type of friends you have around you will affect you with a personality trait they have; something that we rarely notice. Lemme give an example, if you have these successful friends who are hardworking, neat and exceptional in what they do and you spend time with them then most likely you will tend to behave and act like them.
Then stick around another group of friends who spend the whole day watching movies, playing video games and just having a “a great time” and see the difference.
Then there are relationships where they either make us happy or they kill our happiness, so slowly we tend even not to notice. If you are lucky and find those friends who; it feels amazing when u are with them. They can be hardworking, dedicated type but when they are in their fun place, then u’ll all have the time of your lives, even if all you do is talk about stupid meaningless stuff.These relationships are the best to have, if u want to enjoy your life.
Then there is the opposite. People who are you’re friends but being with them is effort consuming and strenuous. They drown you without even you knowing it.My advise, cut them off. It may hurt for sometime though it will fade away but continuing with them will make your life miserable.
A point to note is that; Please people don’t confuse the relationships that make you sad with the friends who have depression and anxiety issues please please please. Personally i have a friend like that and she has gone through a lot but i love her and will always be there for her. If u know how depression is then u know being alone through it is not pretty.
Then there are a few exceptions which are the best friends relationships. Those that Keep your stuff so long they forget it’s yours, those that are the reason your fridge is empty most of the time but are really there for you and are true friends for life.
Basically all relationships in your life fall in those categories and the determine how your life will turn out and it is only you who can choose which to keep and who to let go.