Wise words on life in general

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.

But what is more painful is to love someone and never

find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who

means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was

never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a

porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away

feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

4. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose

it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been

missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an

hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it

takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth,

even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you

smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day

seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,

be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and

one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other’s shoes. If you feel that it

hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck

a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may

heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best

of everything they just make the most of everything that comes

along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with

a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone

around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,

you’re the one smiling and everyone around you is crying

I read this online some time back and I saved it, today when I was clearing some files I found it and read it again. I don’t know why but I was inspired to post it, so I hope reading this has given u some knowledge on life in general.

Letter to those suffering from Depresion

Hi, am  Herman. I don’t know you and I don’t get what you are going through, chances are your condition may be different from the millions of people out there and chances are that you’d probably say, since I don’t know you,  I can’t really help you. If that is the case I want to ask you a simple question. Do you know yourself?

The reason why am writing this letter to you is because I have gone through severe depression. I have been so deep in it that I lost my personality,  joy, my friends, my family, my outlook on life and basically my life in general. I might not know what you are going through but I know the feeling.

That feeling that everything is worthless, that nothing seems to satisfy what you are looking for, that feeling of not wanting to face the world because of its judging eyes, that feeling of wishing to sleep away the day of locking yourself away, The thoughts of just simply ending it.

So now let me ask you this, if everything is worthless then why are you still here? If you have an answer then it means that you have something worth living for. If you don’t want to face the world, you have to force yourself to find your own way of doing it, cause the world is there and you’ll eventually have to deal, whether you like it or not. One of the worst mistakes I have made is to think I can run away from my life, but the thing is you run so fast and so hard and after a while when you turn back, life is not there, thinking you have succeeded a smile comes to your face only to look by your side and find it there.

If your reading this I want to tell you that running away from your problems will never never be a solution. Yes you might avoid them now, yes, you may delay them now but the reality will eventually set in and the things you are running from will hit you twice as hard.

If you were given one chance of doing something great, one opportunity with all the resources you’d ever need and that which will make you smile, what would you do? Well, the thing is, that chance is life and you have two choices. Choice one, waste it. Choice two, live it to your best.

No one can make that choice for you. It will not be easy and it will never be. It’s all about cause and effect. I apologize if am harsh but that’s reality.  The choice is yours.

Imagine if courts could be like this!!!!

Society is funny. They ask you to be yourself and yet they judge you

I am tired of the society, am tired of the judgmental eyes of the society. What does it want with me and why can’t it just leave me alone to live my life. Am certain am not the only one who feels this way cause my friends to have had some awkward experience where they are judged wrongly by the society.

The first case is probably put best by the statement, “Society is funny. They ask you to be yourself and yet they judge you.” How many times have people around you told you that, be yourself, be original, don’t be afraid to be? Then when you follow their advice they are the first on the scene pointing fingers. Just because the people there have always done something in a particular way, doesn’t make it the best way to do it nor does it make them normal, cause if you are acting normally, are you being normal or are you just acting?

Society is always trying in some way to grind us down to a single flat surface, always doing its best to keep us in “check”, but if I may be so bold to quote the Bible, ‘God created each man unique and no two people are equal in all aspects.’ Why then does society say different? It’s these things that limit the ability we have inside. Ask yourself this question, why is the society so afraid of people moving away from the ‘normal’? OK, I have to admit that statement also scares me a bit, I really don’t know why I just wrote that, but it’s worth a thought.

Then there are these standards that society has put on people, standards that we have to reach so as to be considered normal. Sorry for the language but that is BS, you were created to be different, why then do you try so hard to be normal? If we live according to others conditions, does it mean we are living our life or we are living their life? She needs make-up to cover up because society taught her who she is, isn’t enough. Am sorry if I sound to direct but that’s the truth. Dear insecure girls everywhere, you’re not ugly, society is. Sincerely, The truth.

Then there is this popular concept about the cycle of life. It goes like, go to school, get a good education, go to college, get a good-paying job and guide the next generation in the same way. Don’t get me wrong, I think, no, I know education is really, really important but the type of education is the key. I once read a quote that said, “Economists report that a college education adds many thousands of dollars to a man’s lifetime income – which he then spends sending his son to college.” You have to admit it does have a strong point to it though it’s not entirely true. I know guys who are retiring at 19 and making it big in online marketing. A majority of the great men in history never graduated, bills gate, Steve jobs, and the list goes on, Einstein was considered slow in learning at a young age yet became one of the greatest minds to date.

Finally, we say society is messed up but we are society, so let the change begin with you, Society exists only as a mental concept; in the real world, there are only individuals. The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. I conclude with the word from Robert Frost; “I’m against a homogenized society because I want the cream to rise.”

The choice is yours!!

Life comes with challenges, hurdles, and curve balls which sometimes seem too much to handle. You walk down the street smiling at strangers yet deep inside you are crying; tears fall but no one sees what is really happening. People might know you but have no clue who you really are. Sometimes you are in a crowd yet you feel so alone, forcing yourself to talk to others maybe cause you’re just expected to; but not really talking. Feelings of uncertainty, confusion, and fear of the unknown cloud your mind.

Well sometimes life is crap, I have been there and I even wrote part of it in my lowest point in life. But I got to know that the beautiful thing about life is that you have a choice. You might choose to stay in that dark place and just live that way or you might choose to wanna be better. The choice is never easy, trust me, especially if you have been in a really deep depression cause I have been there and maybe am still there I really don’t know but I know am becoming better.

If you want your life to mean something then you want to be better, you can do this by practicing the following of which has helped me see things in a new light.

 Look at your problem in the context of your entire life.  Ask yourself:  How important is this difficulty in the overall scheme of things?  What will this matter ten years from now?   Ok so you got diagnosed with depression, It won’t significantly affect the rest of your life but then that’s according to you. The key is to see the problem for what it is. Think often about how you fit into the “big picture.”  Ask yourself:  Why am I here?  What is my mission in life?  Am I following my purpose?  I’ll be the first to admit that I never used to think about such issues.  But I do now.

Wake up to the miracles all around you.  Whether you realize it or not, you are part of an extraordinary universe.  Spectacular, mind-boggling things are happening every second.  For instance, you breathe, your heart beats and you digest food all without any conscious effort.  Tulips know when to pop up through the ground at precisely the right time each and every year. So, shake your ho-hum attitude and begin to appreciate the amazing intelligence guiding the universe!

Extend yourself to others.  We tend to get mired in our own problems, turning inward and growing depressed and frustrated.  Finding ways to serve and help others will make you feel better and broaden your understanding of the interconnectedness of all human beings.  Even something as simple as offering a few encouraging words to someone else can make a world of difference–to them and to you.

Redirect your focus to the many blessings in your life.  Are you in reasonably good health?  Do you have your eyesight and mobility?  Is there a roof over your head and enough food in the refrigerator?  There are many people who do not enjoy these gifts and who would gladly trade places with you.  So, focus on the many things for which you are grateful for.

View every problem as an opportunity for growth.  Too often, we see our difficulties as negative experiences which are there to punish us and cause pain.  As you look back on your life, you’ll find that many problems and painful situations led to personal growth and improved conditions.   So, develop a strong belief that the “bad” experience is there to help you in some way.  Don’t curse your challenge; instead, look for the lessons or opportunities which your problems are showing you.  Life is much more remember that.

WHAT LIFE OFFERS

I once read a funny joke about life, went as follows:

When life gives you lemons,                                                                     
make grape juice,
then sit back,
and let the world wonder how you did it.

Funny isn’t? well, this kinder got me thinking, actually what does life offer us. If you ask a painter he’ll tell you, a converse to paint your picture. Ask a writer and he’ll reply ” I think of life as a good book. The further you get into it, the more it begins to make sense.” Ask a banker and he’ll tell you, “Life’s a blank check meant for you to fill”.

All these definitions and more that I haven’t stated show one thing. Life in general is what we make it be, what is in our hearts becomes what is in our minds and our minds creates life. Day in day out, in our dreams at night, as we take a walk at the park. Things come into perspective and life comes into being.

As this happens we forget one very important trait of life; that life can be anything you make it be. Believe it or not, life gives you the platform to accomplish anything far beyond what you believe you can. Yet people still take life as “just life”. When people first stepped in America as it was a plain land, they made one comment. This is a land of new possibilities. The American dream, as it was known, mainly because of that mentality, America is, where it is today.

Possibilities are endless in life, they are only limited in people’s minds. Sorry to say but society has closed the mind of people, how? let me show you: Nowadays the one rule of society that gets into people’s minds is be normal. People have let the society mold them, following the life rule as everyone else, not that it’s wrong, but it can somehow be a limiting factor to the genius withing.

Most people think Einstein was a genius. Even though he did poorly in school, it is generally assumed that Einstein became a genius later on. It’s also widely believed that he used superior intellect and complex mathematical reasoning to finally arrive at E=MC2.

The truth about Einstein is altogether different. Even though he was pretty smart, his accomplishments didn’t come from a wildly superior intellect. He didn’t arrive at his famous equation by complex mathematical reasoning. In fact, he didn’t use mathematical or scientific reasoning at all!

If Einstein didn’t arrive at E=MC2 by mathematical or scientific reasoning, how did he get there? The answer is very simple…

He made it up!

Einstein wasn’t as big a genius as most people think. He did have a curious mind, however, and he wasn’t afraid to think differently than other people around him believed. (Proof)

Cutting the story short life is what you make it to be and it all begins in your mind, millions of life stories have proven that. You just have to want something really bad, focus on it and life will willingly provide what is in your mind.

Blog of the Year 2012 award

Blog of the year award wow, i didn’t expect this at all when i started the blog but thanks so much II 4S Aopmrdd for putting me with the best of inspirational writers.

I really never knew about the blog of the year 2012 award, but you have to admit it sounds really cool doesn’t it?

Here are the ‘rules’ for this award:

1 Select the blog(s) you think deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award

2 Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award.

3 Please include a link back to this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award – http://thethoughtpalette.co.uk/our-awards/blog-of-the-year-2012-award/ and include these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)

4 Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them.

5 You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience [I cannot join that group as I am not on Facebook].

6 As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars…

Yes – that’s right – there are stars to collect!

Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different!

When you begin you will receive the ‘1 star’ award – and every time you are given the award by another blog – you can add another star!

There are a total of 6 stars to collect.

Which means that you can check out your favourite blogs, and even if they have already been given the award by someone else, then you can still bestow it on them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!

For more information check the FAQ on The Thought Palette.

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I have read some pretty amazing blogs before and i will try my best to give as many as possible and add others in time.  I will very probably forget many deserving blogs but will one day put them on the list.

Please share this with other bloggers cause i personally think this initiative is a really motivating and cool one.

my nominees are:

amaeguerrero

hastywords

kiramoorescloset

theramblingphilosopher

jennovafoodblog

Space for lasam

Ron Scubadiver’s Wild Life

Bealtaine Cottage

Annoying things are imporant in our lives part 2

Lots of us were born into towns full of people we couldn’t stand. As a kid, maybe you found yourself in an elementary school classroom, packed in with two dozen kids you did not choose and who shared none of your tastes or interests. Maybe you got beat up a lot.

But, you’ve grown up. And if you’re, say, a huge DragonForce fan, you can go find their forum and meet a dozen people just like you. Or even better, start a private room with your favorite few and lock everybody else out. Say goodbye to the tedious, awkward, painful process of dealing with somebody who’s truly different. That’s another Old World inconvenience, like having to wash your clothes in a creek.

The problem is that peacefully dealing with incompatible people is crucial to living in a society. In fact, if you think about it, peacefully dealing with people you can’t stand is society. Just people with opposite tastes and conflicting personalities sharing space and cooperating, often through gritted teeth.

Fifty years ago, you had to sit in a crowded room to see a movie. You didn’t get to choose; you either did that or you missed the movie. When you got a new car, everyone on the block came and stood in your yard to look it over. You can bet that some of those people were (filtered).

Yet, on the whole, people back then were apparently happier in their jobs and more satisfied with their lives. And get this: They had more friends.

That’s right. Even though they had almost no ability to filter their peers according to common interests (hell, often you were just friends with the guy who happened to live next door), they still came up with more close friends than we have now people they could trust.

It turns out, apparently, that after you get over that first irritation, after you shed your shell of “they listen to different music because they wouldn’t understand mine” superiority, there’s a sort of comfort in needing other people and being needed on a level beyond common interests. It turns out humans are social animals after all. And that ability to suffer fools, to tolerate annoyance, that’s literally the one single thing that allows you to function in a world populated by other people who aren’t you. Otherwise, you turn emo. Science has proven it.

Annoying things are imporant in our lives part 1

{There is this story I was reading it goes like this}

Scientists call it the Naked Photo Test, and it works like this: say a photo turns up of you nakedly doing something that would shame you and your family for generations. Ask yourself how many people in your life you would trust with that photo. If you’re like the rest of us, you probably have at most two.

Even more depressing, studies show that about one out of four people have no one they can confide in.

The Sad Bear 1, by Nedroid

The average number of close friends we say we have is dropping fast, down dramatically in just the last 20 years. Why?

#We don’t have enough annoying strangers in our lives.

That’s not sarcasm. Annoyance is something you build up a tolerance to, like alcohol or a bad smell. The more we’re able to edit the annoyance out of our lives, the less we’re able to handle it.

The problem is we’ve built an awesome, sprawling web of technology meant purely to let us avoid annoying people. Do all your Christmas shopping online and avoid the fat lady ramming her cart into you at Target. Spend $5,000 on a home theater system so you can see movies on a big screen without a toddler kicking the back of your seat. Hell, rent the DVD’s from Netflix and you don’t even have to spend the 30 seconds with the confused kid working the register at Blockbuster.

Get stuck in the waiting room at the doctor? No way we’re striking up a conversation with the smelly old man in the next seat. We’ll plug the iPod into our ears and have a text conversation with a friend or play our DS. Filter that annoyance right out of our world.

From outofbalance.org

Now that would be awesome if it were actually possible to keep all of the irritating things out of your life. But, it’s not. It never will be. As long as you have needs, you’ll have to deal with people you can’t stand from time to time. We’re losing that skill, the one that lets us deal with strangers and tolerate their shrill voices and clunky senses of humor and body odor and squeaky shoes. So, what encounters, you do have to the outside world, the world you can’t control, make you want to go on a screaming crotch-punching spree are actually one of the things that you actually need for your development in life…………………

NB: READ PART 2 TO GET THE WHOLE PICTURE: TO BE RELEASED TOMORROW!

Believe what you feel

On this day, Morrie says that he has an exercise for us to try. We are to stand, facing away from our classmates, and fall backward, relying on another student to catch us. Most of us are uncomfortable with this, and we cannot let go for more than a few inches before stopping ourselves. We laugh in embarrassment.

Finally, one student, a thin, quiet, dark-haired girl whom I notice almost always wears bulky, white fisherman sweaters, crosses her arms over her chest, closes her eyes, leans back, and does not flinch, like one of those Lipton tea commercials where the model splashes into the pool…

For a moment, I am sure she is going to thump on the floor. At the last instant, her assigned partner grabs her head and shoulders and yanks her up harshly.

“Whoa!” several students yell. Some clap. Morrie finally smiles. “You see”, he says to the girl, “you closed your eyes, That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too – even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling”.