Life and Relationships

The basic thing about life is that, it is determined by the relationships we have, this means that the key of making your life interesting or dull is by creating certain relationships. If u want to do it right, then u have to know which ones to make, which ones to avoid and how to maintain the ones that are most important to you.

The relationships we create should be the ones that build a certain aspect of our lives. One thing i have come to notice is that, usually the type of friends you have around you will affect you with a personality trait they have; something that we rarely notice. Lemme give an example, if you have these successful friends who are hardworking, neat and exceptional in what they do and you spend time with them then most likely you will tend to behave and act like them.

Then stick around another group of friends who spend the whole day watching movies, playing video games and just having a “a great time” and see the difference.

Then there are relationships where they either make us happy or they kill our happiness, so slowly we tend even not to notice. If you are lucky and find those friends who; it feels amazing when u are with them. They can be hardworking, dedicated type but when they are in their fun place, then u’ll all have the time of your lives, even if all you do is talk about stupid meaningless stuff.These relationships are the best to have, if u want to enjoy your life.

Then there is the opposite. People who are you’re friends but being with them is effort consuming and strenuous. They drown you without even you knowing it.My advise, cut them off. It may hurt for sometime though it will fade away but continuing with them will make your life miserable.

A point to note is that; Please people don’t confuse the relationships that make you sad with the friends who have depression and anxiety issues please please please. Personally i have a friend like that and she has gone through a lot but i love her and will always be there for her. If u know how depression is then u know being alone through it is not pretty.

Then there are a few exceptions which are the best friends relationships. Those that Keep your stuff so long they forget it’s yours, those that are the reason your fridge is empty most of the time but are really there for you and are true friends for life.

Basically all relationships in your life fall in those categories and the determine how your life will turn out and it is only you who can choose which to keep and who to let go.

Wise words on life in general

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.

But what is more painful is to love someone and never

find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who

means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was

never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a

porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away

feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

4. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose

it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been

missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an

hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it

takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth,

even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you

smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day

seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,

be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and

one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other’s shoes. If you feel that it

hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck

a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may

heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best

of everything they just make the most of everything that comes

along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with

a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone

around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,

you’re the one smiling and everyone around you is crying

I read this online some time back and I saved it, today when I was clearing some files I found it and read it again. I don’t know why but I was inspired to post it, so I hope reading this has given u some knowledge on life in general.

Letter to those suffering from Depresion

Hi, am  Herman. I don’t know you and I don’t get what you are going through, chances are your condition may be different from the millions of people out there and chances are that you’d probably say, since I don’t know you,  I can’t really help you. If that is the case I want to ask you a simple question. Do you know yourself?

The reason why am writing this letter to you is because I have gone through severe depression. I have been so deep in it that I lost my personality,  joy, my friends, my family, my outlook on life and basically my life in general. I might not know what you are going through but I know the feeling.

That feeling that everything is worthless, that nothing seems to satisfy what you are looking for, that feeling of not wanting to face the world because of its judging eyes, that feeling of wishing to sleep away the day of locking yourself away, The thoughts of just simply ending it.

So now let me ask you this, if everything is worthless then why are you still here? If you have an answer then it means that you have something worth living for. If you don’t want to face the world, you have to force yourself to find your own way of doing it, cause the world is there and you’ll eventually have to deal, whether you like it or not. One of the worst mistakes I have made is to think I can run away from my life, but the thing is you run so fast and so hard and after a while when you turn back, life is not there, thinking you have succeeded a smile comes to your face only to look by your side and find it there.

If your reading this I want to tell you that running away from your problems will never never be a solution. Yes you might avoid them now, yes, you may delay them now but the reality will eventually set in and the things you are running from will hit you twice as hard.

If you were given one chance of doing something great, one opportunity with all the resources you’d ever need and that which will make you smile, what would you do? Well, the thing is, that chance is life and you have two choices. Choice one, waste it. Choice two, live it to your best.

No one can make that choice for you. It will not be easy and it will never be. It’s all about cause and effect. I apologize if am harsh but that’s reality.  The choice is yours.

Imagine if courts could be like this!!!!

Society is funny. They ask you to be yourself and yet they judge you

I am tired of the society, am tired of the judgmental eyes of the society. What does it want with me and why can’t it just leave me alone to live my life. Am certain am not the only one who feels this way cause my friends to have had some awkward experience where they are judged wrongly by the society.

The first case is probably put best by the statement, “Society is funny. They ask you to be yourself and yet they judge you.” How many times have people around you told you that, be yourself, be original, don’t be afraid to be? Then when you follow their advice they are the first on the scene pointing fingers. Just because the people there have always done something in a particular way, doesn’t make it the best way to do it nor does it make them normal, cause if you are acting normally, are you being normal or are you just acting?

Society is always trying in some way to grind us down to a single flat surface, always doing its best to keep us in “check”, but if I may be so bold to quote the Bible, ‘God created each man unique and no two people are equal in all aspects.’ Why then does society say different? It’s these things that limit the ability we have inside. Ask yourself this question, why is the society so afraid of people moving away from the ‘normal’? OK, I have to admit that statement also scares me a bit, I really don’t know why I just wrote that, but it’s worth a thought.

Then there are these standards that society has put on people, standards that we have to reach so as to be considered normal. Sorry for the language but that is BS, you were created to be different, why then do you try so hard to be normal? If we live according to others conditions, does it mean we are living our life or we are living their life? She needs make-up to cover up because society taught her who she is, isn’t enough. Am sorry if I sound to direct but that’s the truth. Dear insecure girls everywhere, you’re not ugly, society is. Sincerely, The truth.

Then there is this popular concept about the cycle of life. It goes like, go to school, get a good education, go to college, get a good-paying job and guide the next generation in the same way. Don’t get me wrong, I think, no, I know education is really, really important but the type of education is the key. I once read a quote that said, “Economists report that a college education adds many thousands of dollars to a man’s lifetime income – which he then spends sending his son to college.” You have to admit it does have a strong point to it though it’s not entirely true. I know guys who are retiring at 19 and making it big in online marketing. A majority of the great men in history never graduated, bills gate, Steve jobs, and the list goes on, Einstein was considered slow in learning at a young age yet became one of the greatest minds to date.

Finally, we say society is messed up but we are society, so let the change begin with you, Society exists only as a mental concept; in the real world, there are only individuals. The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. I conclude with the word from Robert Frost; “I’m against a homogenized society because I want the cream to rise.”

The choice is yours!!

Life comes with challenges, hurdles, and curve balls which sometimes seem too much to handle. You walk down the street smiling at strangers yet deep inside you are crying; tears fall but no one sees what is really happening. People might know you but have no clue who you really are. Sometimes you are in a crowd yet you feel so alone, forcing yourself to talk to others maybe cause you’re just expected to; but not really talking. Feelings of uncertainty, confusion, and fear of the unknown cloud your mind.

Well sometimes life is crap, I have been there and I even wrote part of it in my lowest point in life. But I got to know that the beautiful thing about life is that you have a choice. You might choose to stay in that dark place and just live that way or you might choose to wanna be better. The choice is never easy, trust me, especially if you have been in a really deep depression cause I have been there and maybe am still there I really don’t know but I know am becoming better.

If you want your life to mean something then you want to be better, you can do this by practicing the following of which has helped me see things in a new light.

 Look at your problem in the context of your entire life.  Ask yourself:  How important is this difficulty in the overall scheme of things?  What will this matter ten years from now?   Ok so you got diagnosed with depression, It won’t significantly affect the rest of your life but then that’s according to you. The key is to see the problem for what it is. Think often about how you fit into the “big picture.”  Ask yourself:  Why am I here?  What is my mission in life?  Am I following my purpose?  I’ll be the first to admit that I never used to think about such issues.  But I do now.

Wake up to the miracles all around you.  Whether you realize it or not, you are part of an extraordinary universe.  Spectacular, mind-boggling things are happening every second.  For instance, you breathe, your heart beats and you digest food all without any conscious effort.  Tulips know when to pop up through the ground at precisely the right time each and every year. So, shake your ho-hum attitude and begin to appreciate the amazing intelligence guiding the universe!

Extend yourself to others.  We tend to get mired in our own problems, turning inward and growing depressed and frustrated.  Finding ways to serve and help others will make you feel better and broaden your understanding of the interconnectedness of all human beings.  Even something as simple as offering a few encouraging words to someone else can make a world of difference–to them and to you.

Redirect your focus to the many blessings in your life.  Are you in reasonably good health?  Do you have your eyesight and mobility?  Is there a roof over your head and enough food in the refrigerator?  There are many people who do not enjoy these gifts and who would gladly trade places with you.  So, focus on the many things for which you are grateful for.

View every problem as an opportunity for growth.  Too often, we see our difficulties as negative experiences which are there to punish us and cause pain.  As you look back on your life, you’ll find that many problems and painful situations led to personal growth and improved conditions.   So, develop a strong belief that the “bad” experience is there to help you in some way.  Don’t curse your challenge; instead, look for the lessons or opportunities which your problems are showing you.  Life is much more remember that.

WHAT LIFE OFFERS

I once read a funny joke about life, went as follows:

When life gives you lemons,                                                                     
make grape juice,
then sit back,
and let the world wonder how you did it.

Funny isn’t? well, this kinder got me thinking, actually what does life offer us. If you ask a painter he’ll tell you, a converse to paint your picture. Ask a writer and he’ll reply ” I think of life as a good book. The further you get into it, the more it begins to make sense.” Ask a banker and he’ll tell you, “Life’s a blank check meant for you to fill”.

All these definitions and more that I haven’t stated show one thing. Life in general is what we make it be, what is in our hearts becomes what is in our minds and our minds creates life. Day in day out, in our dreams at night, as we take a walk at the park. Things come into perspective and life comes into being.

As this happens we forget one very important trait of life; that life can be anything you make it be. Believe it or not, life gives you the platform to accomplish anything far beyond what you believe you can. Yet people still take life as “just life”. When people first stepped in America as it was a plain land, they made one comment. This is a land of new possibilities. The American dream, as it was known, mainly because of that mentality, America is, where it is today.

Possibilities are endless in life, they are only limited in people’s minds. Sorry to say but society has closed the mind of people, how? let me show you: Nowadays the one rule of society that gets into people’s minds is be normal. People have let the society mold them, following the life rule as everyone else, not that it’s wrong, but it can somehow be a limiting factor to the genius withing.

Most people think Einstein was a genius. Even though he did poorly in school, it is generally assumed that Einstein became a genius later on. It’s also widely believed that he used superior intellect and complex mathematical reasoning to finally arrive at E=MC2.

The truth about Einstein is altogether different. Even though he was pretty smart, his accomplishments didn’t come from a wildly superior intellect. He didn’t arrive at his famous equation by complex mathematical reasoning. In fact, he didn’t use mathematical or scientific reasoning at all!

If Einstein didn’t arrive at E=MC2 by mathematical or scientific reasoning, how did he get there? The answer is very simple…

He made it up!

Einstein wasn’t as big a genius as most people think. He did have a curious mind, however, and he wasn’t afraid to think differently than other people around him believed. (Proof)

Cutting the story short life is what you make it to be and it all begins in your mind, millions of life stories have proven that. You just have to want something really bad, focus on it and life will willingly provide what is in your mind.

Blog of the Year 2012 award

Blog of the year award wow, i didn’t expect this at all when i started the blog but thanks so much II 4S Aopmrdd for putting me with the best of inspirational writers.

I really never knew about the blog of the year 2012 award, but you have to admit it sounds really cool doesn’t it?

Here are the ‘rules’ for this award:

1 Select the blog(s) you think deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award

2 Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there’s no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ them with their award.

3 Please include a link back to this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award – http://thethoughtpalette.co.uk/our-awards/blog-of-the-year-2012-award/ and include these ‘rules’ in your post (please don’t alter the rules or the badges!)

4 Let the blog(s) you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the ‘rules’ with them.

5 You can now also join our Facebook group – click ‘like’ on this page ‘Blog of the Year 2012’ Award Facebook group and then you can share your blog with an even wider audience [I cannot join that group as I am not on Facebook].

6 As a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog and sidebar … and start collecting stars…

Yes – that’s right – there are stars to collect!

Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different!

When you begin you will receive the ‘1 star’ award – and every time you are given the award by another blog – you can add another star!

There are a total of 6 stars to collect.

Which means that you can check out your favourite blogs, and even if they have already been given the award by someone else, then you can still bestow it on them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!

For more information check the FAQ on The Thought Palette.

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I have read some pretty amazing blogs before and i will try my best to give as many as possible and add others in time.  I will very probably forget many deserving blogs but will one day put them on the list.

Please share this with other bloggers cause i personally think this initiative is a really motivating and cool one.

my nominees are:

amaeguerrero

hastywords

kiramoorescloset

theramblingphilosopher

jennovafoodblog

Space for lasam

Ron Scubadiver’s Wild Life

Bealtaine Cottage

Nick Vujicic: a man with no limbs who teaches people how to get up

 

Nick Vujicic was born in Melbourne, Australia with the rare Tetra-amelia disorder: limbless, missing both arms at shoulder level, and having one small foot with two toes protruding from his left thigh. Despite the absence of limbs, he is doing surf and swimming and playing golf and soccer. Nick graduated from college at the age of 21 with a double major in Accounting and Financial Planning. He began his travels as a motivational speaker, focusing on the topics that today’s teenagers face. Below I have compiled some of his words about his life and his stories for more you can visit his site I which have linked at the end.

“God loves it when we have no plan B. He does His greatest work when we are totally reliant on Him. He comes to our rescue when we are walking a tightrope, teetering on the brink of disaster, without a safety net below.Why? Because walking a tightrope without a Safety Net requires faith. And when we trust Him to do something audacious, totally ridiculous, completely beyond our capability, only God can get the credit…..”

“I can’t imagine that any previous generation has been lied to as much as ours. We’re continually bombarded with seductive messages. Replace the distorted self-image with God’s true image in the minds and hearts of young people everywhere! Watch this incredible video that encourages not only teens but everyone to seek their validation from the only One qualified to give it!”

“You are the legs that carry me around the world. You are the arms that hug the people I wish
I could reach. I am so happy to have the opportunity to give my love to the world through you.”

“Do you know that when kids are bullied, they often turn into bullies themselves? Tragic, but true.

That’s what happened with Peter. He was an exceptional student, at the top of his class. But then kids started bullying him. Mercilessly.

Their cruelty began to destroy Peter from the inside. He wrote, “I started to believe that I’m just not good enough… that others don’t like me…. And I started hating other people.”

Peter withdrew into utter loneliness and despair. He got so low that he even considered suicide.”

Personally, I have struggled with depression and I still do but reading and watching nick’s videos I am really touched, I do really hope this great person also touches your heart and you should really visit his site at lifewithoutlimbs.org.

The Frogs and the Tower

There once was a bunch of tiny frogs…

… who arranged a running competition. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower. A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants…

The race began…

Honestly, no-one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as:

“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”

“They will NEVER make it to the top”.

“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one … Except for those who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher…

The crowd continued to yell

“It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!”

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up…

…But ONE continued higher and higher and higher… This one wouldn’t give up!

At the end, everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!

Then, all of the other tiny frogs naturally were wondering how this one frog managed to do it.

A contestant asked the tiny frog: How did you find the strength to reach the goal?

It turned out…

That the winner was deaf!!!